Taking control is not only one of the manliest things you can do, but it's also an attractive trait as a gentleman.
Now taking control doesn't mean dominating your woman, or telling her what to do all the time, it simply means showing dominance and taking the lead in a situation. Let's look at it with two examples:
One day a couple was walking on the road and the woman tells her boyfriend "I feel like eating a vegetable sandwich" and the guy replies with "uh...oh...I don't know...um...do you know any places?", to which the woman replies "no" and the guy says "oh ok so what should we do?"...
The above example shows the lack of dominance or taking control on the part of the male. He expects his woman to do all the work and he'll just follow. That also shows a lack of confidence.
Now, let's take the same example in another way:
One day a couple was walking on the road and the woman tells her boyfriend "I feel like eating a vegetable sandwich" and the guy replies with "alright then. Do you know any places here which sell vegetable sandwiches?" to which the woman replies "no" and the guy says "that's alright! We can go ask around and see if anyone here sells them"
Now here, you can see the difference. The man is confident and dominant. Not only is this an attractive trait to have, it shows that you know what you're doing and makes the woman comfortable around you.
So are you that unconfident guy who can't take control of a situation? Here's how you can become the guy from example 2:
1. Don't let her do the talking: If you find yourself in a situation where you have to interact with people, YOU do the talking. It's not difficult. YOU always do the talking unless she has to talk to the person.
A simple example of this is something that happened to my friend recently. He was out sitting on the rocks near the sea, making out with his girlfriend, when this little boy came out of nowhere and interrupted their personal time. He wanted to sell them tiaras. MY FRIEND (guy) asked him to go away but he refused...all he said was "la la la la" (i know right it's pretty weird)...since he was not listening to the guy, my friend's woman tried telling him to go away, but my friend quickly told her "I got this, don't worry"
The above example is extremely weird, but it explains my point in a nutshell.
2. Go out of your way: When she wants something, get it for her. It's better to get her things when she asks you for them rather than having her think that you don't fulfil her wishes.
3. Avoid Embarrassment: Always dress and present yourself in a way which won't embarrass her. If you wear something she's not comfortable with, she might not feel nice being seen with you.
For example, if you dress like a joker for a date, no woman would like to be seen with you. If you wear a worn out trouser or an oversized shirt, women may notice that and may not be very comfortable with that.
Plus, dressing well gives you a confidence boost.
4. Don't be too nice: This is what gets most guys friend zoned. To know what traits you should truly have as a man, click here. If you're too nice she'll not feel safe around you...she'll know you'll not hurt her, but should something happen, she'll feel you're not capable of protecting her.
5. Take control when you don't have it: Sometimes in certain situations, you don't have control. Even when you feel helpless, make sure your woman doesn't feel the same. Make sure she feels like she doesn't have to do anything and that you will take care of everything, and then TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING.
Referring to the example 2 from the beginning of the post, the man doesn't have any control because he doesn't know anything about the place, but he ensures his woman that he will take care of everything.
So, for those of you who don't have problems being a confident man and taking control, keep going! For those of you who aren't as confident, follow the above few steps and you should be good to go!
"A real gentleman is the one who's woman doesn't feel helpless at any given time"
Now taking control doesn't mean dominating your woman, or telling her what to do all the time, it simply means showing dominance and taking the lead in a situation. Let's look at it with two examples:
One day a couple was walking on the road and the woman tells her boyfriend "I feel like eating a vegetable sandwich" and the guy replies with "uh...oh...I don't know...um...do you know any places?", to which the woman replies "no" and the guy says "oh ok so what should we do?"...
The above example shows the lack of dominance or taking control on the part of the male. He expects his woman to do all the work and he'll just follow. That also shows a lack of confidence.
Now, let's take the same example in another way:
One day a couple was walking on the road and the woman tells her boyfriend "I feel like eating a vegetable sandwich" and the guy replies with "alright then. Do you know any places here which sell vegetable sandwiches?" to which the woman replies "no" and the guy says "that's alright! We can go ask around and see if anyone here sells them"
Now here, you can see the difference. The man is confident and dominant. Not only is this an attractive trait to have, it shows that you know what you're doing and makes the woman comfortable around you.
So are you that unconfident guy who can't take control of a situation? Here's how you can become the guy from example 2:
1. Don't let her do the talking: If you find yourself in a situation where you have to interact with people, YOU do the talking. It's not difficult. YOU always do the talking unless she has to talk to the person.
A simple example of this is something that happened to my friend recently. He was out sitting on the rocks near the sea, making out with his girlfriend, when this little boy came out of nowhere and interrupted their personal time. He wanted to sell them tiaras. MY FRIEND (guy) asked him to go away but he refused...all he said was "la la la la" (i know right it's pretty weird)...since he was not listening to the guy, my friend's woman tried telling him to go away, but my friend quickly told her "I got this, don't worry"
The above example is extremely weird, but it explains my point in a nutshell.
2. Go out of your way: When she wants something, get it for her. It's better to get her things when she asks you for them rather than having her think that you don't fulfil her wishes.
3. Avoid Embarrassment: Always dress and present yourself in a way which won't embarrass her. If you wear something she's not comfortable with, she might not feel nice being seen with you.
For example, if you dress like a joker for a date, no woman would like to be seen with you. If you wear a worn out trouser or an oversized shirt, women may notice that and may not be very comfortable with that.
Plus, dressing well gives you a confidence boost.
4. Don't be too nice: This is what gets most guys friend zoned. To know what traits you should truly have as a man, click here. If you're too nice she'll not feel safe around you...she'll know you'll not hurt her, but should something happen, she'll feel you're not capable of protecting her.
5. Take control when you don't have it: Sometimes in certain situations, you don't have control. Even when you feel helpless, make sure your woman doesn't feel the same. Make sure she feels like she doesn't have to do anything and that you will take care of everything, and then TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING.
Referring to the example 2 from the beginning of the post, the man doesn't have any control because he doesn't know anything about the place, but he ensures his woman that he will take care of everything.
So, for those of you who don't have problems being a confident man and taking control, keep going! For those of you who aren't as confident, follow the above few steps and you should be good to go!
"A real gentleman is the one who's woman doesn't feel helpless at any given time"
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