10 Mistakes Men Make In Relationships

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Respect: Many, many men, even today, subconsciously objectify women. They think they’ve got the upper hand just because of their gender. Some of them go to the extent of not giving their female counterpart the respect they deserve. Not only is this wrong, it can be heart-breaking. So, men, forget about gender, treat her as an equal, and give her a lot of respect because she’s chosen you over other guys…she’s made herself unavailable to others for you.

The Post-Love Phenomenon: Someone extremely close to me has gone through this. Long after she stopped loving her now ex-boyfriend, she was still in a relationship with him. Why? Because he didn’t let her break up. He forced her to be in a relationship with him. Men, no matter how desperate you are to be in a relationship, if you don’t love her, it’s not worth it. If your relationship’s gone bad, don’t try to fix it by forcing her to be with you when she doesn’t want to. You say you still love her? Well, if you love her, let her go. Let her be happy. She’s not happy with you, so do what’s right for her. Let her be.

Manliness: Now before you start judging this point by the sub-heading, let me just clarify that it’s good to be manly…to an extent. Being manly is good, and you should be manly if you’re a man, but the problem arises when guys cross the line with their manliness. When they start controlling their feelings, when they hold back tears when they want to cry because “crying is not manly”, that’s when it becomes a little too much. You should be manly, but that doesn’t mean you don’t express your feelings…specially with your female partner. If you feel like crying, just cry. There’s nothing wrong with it. If you think it’s better not to fight someone because you’re 100% sure you’ll have your ass kicked, then don’t fight. It’s okay to back out of a fight. Remember this: A strong man isn’t the one who doesn’t cry, but the one who falls, cries, but gets back on his feet.

Love: Look, men, let’s be honest here, a lot of you are perverse jerks…even though you act good in front of girls. Don’t fucking date her if you don’t love her, it’s that simple. Women aren’t as bad as men, and I’m not being a feminist here. They really aren’t. They fall in love quite easily, contrary to the popular belief. You can’t make her love you and date her till you get bored of her, and then leave her for someone who merely looks better. That’s not nice of you. You know who you are, and you should stop now. 

Desperation: Women, there’s all sorts of boyfriends: some desperate for sex, some desperate to be in a relationship, with anyone…There’s those who just want you so that they could show you off, there’s men desperate to be with you for all sorts of reasons. Men, please stop being so desperate. It’s disgusting. Also, women are not things you can just get from somewhere, use and dispose…they’re as good as you, if not better. They don’t deserve desperate guys, and if you’re desperate, then please just stop trying. No girl’s worth your time.

Restricting: It’s very believable, and many women will agree with me, that many, many men like keeping their partner to themselves. Just because she’s in a relationship with you, doesn’t mean she can’t hang out with groups involving other guys. You can’t stop her from meeting other guys just because she’s committed to you. If she’s committed to you, it means you mean more than any other man to her. You have to learn to trust her a little.

Carelessness: There’s a lot of problems in a relationship when all men care about is themselves. If you’re careless with your woman, you’ll lose her. If you don’t care about how she feels, you’ll lose her. She’s committed to you, and the least she deserves is your support.

 Not Just One: When you have more than one woman in your life, you have to understand that you’re playing with their feelings. Women are as good as men, like I mentioned earlier. They deserve a lot of respect, even though they might not command it. You either choose her, and make sure she’s the only one, or you lose her. Don’t break hearts.

No Anger Management: The worst thing any boyfriend can do to his girlfriend is shout at her, or make her feel bad about herself. Even if she hurt you, you don’t just strike back and hurt her. When you shout at your partner for negligible reasons, you’re hurting her, scaring her. She will think twice before doing or telling you anything, and it’s not right to have her scared like that. What you can do is say everything you want to tell her calmly. I’m not asking you to hold back your feelings, just don’t show aggression.

Acting, Then Reacting: Here’s a common mistake many men make: before dating the woman, he pretends to be someone he’s not…when they start dating and are together for a while, he starts showing his true colours. When and if she confronts him about it, he reacts in an inappropriate way. This has happened before, quite a few times, and men who do that, what’s wrong in being yourself, showing people who you are since the very beginning?

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