Don't Give Up.

A lot of breakups happen...a lot of people cheat in on their partners...a lot of people go their separate ways after realizing that they're not meant for each other...and because a lot of people break up...does that mean you do?

I've personally had a ton of problems in my current relationship.
Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship...and that's what my girlfriend and I lost.

People break up because they get cheated on - and that's justified, because the value of the relationship is lost.
People break up for the smallest of reasons - and that's what's not a real relationship.


There are three main elements that are needed to keep a relationship alive, in order of importance:
1. Love
2. Trust
3. Value


Let's discuss the above backwards:

Value

Value is one of the key factors of a relationship. Every relationship requires the two people to value the relationship they have...relationships don't work without value.

Someone who's in a relationship needs to understand what it takes to be in the relationship, depending on the bond and the type of person they're with:

For example, There are some people like me, who require a lot of time and attention. My girlfriend needs to understand that and then commit to me, because if she doesn't have time for me, it's not worth being in the relationship.

At times, people are faced with situations when their partner used to value the relationship, but over time the value of the relationship went down in their eyes.

Take my example again. My girlfriend doesn't spend as much time with me as she used to, and that's something we both have to deal with....of course she values the relationship, but things are never the same when the value of the relationship goes down in one's eyes. 

Trust

Trust is the most important factor of a relationship...you know why? Because if the trust in a relationship's gone, soon the love fades away because you can't trust your partner, and you feel this uncertainty in your mind and body, because you don't know when your partner's going to lie to you or tell you the truth.

Just recently, there was a lot of disruption in my relationship...in the end, the trust in my relationship vanished...It was heartbreaking for both my girlfriend and I, but we're still together, and things are going to (hopefully) get back to normal.

Why didn't I give up?

I didn't give up, because I saw no reason to. There was still love in my relationship, and as long as love exists, nothing's a reason to break up. Unless your heart breaks, you don't need to break up. Things can always be sorted. Remember that there's always light at the end of the tunnel. 

Sure, I don't trust my girlfriend as much anymore, but you know what, I never let her feel bad. She's my girl and it's my responsibility to take care of her, and that's why whether I'm happy or not, I make sure she's happy and content. 

In today's world, people give up easily, people quit the relationships easily. Everyone wants a perfect relationship, but guess what, there isn't one. No relationship is perfect, because there will always be disturbances in every relationship. 

You should be grateful for the good things about your partner, rather than focusing on the fights and the bad qualities of a person. Be grateful for what you have, for there are those who don't have half of what you do.

Love

It's weird how I say trust is the most important, and still I listed love as the first point above. 

The reason is, although with trust, love fades away, as long as there is even a small amount of love in your relationship, it will survive. It will survive unless you quit. 

Relationships can be difficult sometimes, but that doesn't mean that with the slightest inconvenience you quit. Give love a chance, give trust a chance, give the value of your relationship a chance...one small mistake is not the end of the world...

Love is beautiful, love is blind, and love is powerful.

Love is powerful, because it keeps two together in the most difficult situations, but love is also powerful, because if you doubt love even a little, if you doubt your partner even a little, it could destroy your entire relationship. 

Sounds complicated...

A lot of things in life aren't meant to be simple...just like relationships...

A relationship is like a knife...it can help you cut, or it can cut you, depending on how you use the knife...

If you're careless with the knife, you'll cut yourself...if you value the knife, sharpen it, clean it, handle it with care, use it correctly, it will last you much longer and it won't cut you.

A relationship, when valued, treats you well....when you trust your partner, love him/her, take care of him/her, understand his/her point of view, your relationship will last you much, much longer, and it won't hurt you.

Similarly, when your knife becomes blunt, you don't throw it away. You simply sharpen it and it works as good as new!

When your relationship faces hurdles, you don't just give up, or throw away the relationship. You take care of it, sort out the problems together, and come to a mutual decision.

Thank you for taking out your time to read this post. 

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